Truly thanks for sharing the struggle of what it is like to have weight issues. I agree that those who have not had the experience find it difficult to relate.
An apt question in return to those who make comments like "How did you let yourself gain all that weight?" might be, how did you let yourself become so hard hearted and judgmental?

I have been on both sides of the fence and was obese in my youth (250lbs), lost the weight through diet and exercise, then was diagnoses with regional enteritis. That left me below the ideal weight and for a while I couldn't gain it because eating made the enteritis worse.
Both extremes are the cause of great suffering; as is the struggle to overcome them.

KittyLady, B2Y and all those who are living with weight issues and taking them on, you are heros in my view.
May your intentions be realized.

With love, Erika