I have no idea what is going through dh's head, but perhaps I can add a little male perspective on this. We are raised from a very young age to take care of women, to provide for them, to assist them whenever possible, and to cherish and nurture them. As much as the idea of the disease progressing scares you or any of us who have this disease, it terrifies him probably even more because it is totally out of his control. MS is something that can hurt you and make your life harder that he cannot change, cannot fix, and cannot cure. That is immensely frustrating to a guy, because we are raised with the idea that we should be able to do all of those things for our wives. We fix things for you...we solve problems...we are there when you need us. Yet with MS, he can't fix it...he can only watch and support you. He is probably terrified of losing you to a disease, terrified of seeing you in pain or unable to do things for yourself, and frustrated at his inability to do anything to change that course.

Now as to how he goes about showing those feelings or discussing your treatment with you, perhaps he isn't great at showing you those feelings, but if he loves you, they are there. When he hears you talk about not taking a recommended med or treatment, he probably feels like you are not doing things that you could to stave off the progression of the disease...which again feeds back into the helplessness he probably feels. So he argues with you to keep taking the meds or to do what the doctor says. I could be totally off, but I have been in a similar situation, and I know those feelings all too well.

I hope maybe you can figure out a way to communicate with him and not have to argue to understand each other. Sorry you are feeling down, and hope maybe getting a different perspective shines a little sunlight into your situation. He loves you...he just has a strange way of expressing it sometimes.