From my personal experience, those around us (family, colleagues and friends) accept our illness in the way that we do. (many times with a lag period).

I now, mostly see my illness as a technical obstacle and this is the way most of the people around me see it.

I made them understand that there are times in which I am severely disabled, but many times in which I am fully capable of certain tasks, as long as I do them with proper accommodations and don't push myself beyond my limits.

I have reached a point where most people understand I need to prioritize and even help me do so.

But, reaching this point took a lot of work, patience, frustrations.