Originally Posted by spine95

I thought I posted this earlier but guess I didn't. I have a friend and neighbor who has just lost a second son to gang/drug activity. Both boys were big drug dealers and both were murdered in an ongoing struggle for control of the drug traffic in this town..........a college town. She raised six kids, all of them in church and were never left to their own devices when they were young. Their father was in the home until the kids hit their late teens but remained connected to the entire family after the divorce.

My friend is struggling with unwarranted guilt and shame. She keeps saying that if she was a good mother, this would not have happened. I guess I would have the same concerns. It is natural but I wish she could try to focus on the four kids who grew up to be productive citizens and fine parents.

The funeral and graveside service will be private as the last time a son died, it turned out to be a gangster memorial and there was gun shooting at the cemetary. Thank you.