So sorry to hear this. Hope things go well for you both. Is the surgery where they want to remove bone frome one area and attach it to the damaged site? MIT has done a new procedure of using growing bone on a rib or other like bone site. They remove a piece of the bone and wait until new bone is growing and use that new growth before it fuses. This new growth attachs well and achieves the same density as the damaged bone. I am not sure if this is experimental but you may want to ask about it.