Iam so tired of the side effects from my deppression meds. Effexor. I can get an erection with my wife, but cannot cum. Of course my wife likes it, but it is driving me crazy. I can cum by myself, but it is very hard. I have not talk to my dr. yet about this. Do I give up and be deppresed even worse all the time? or just live with it? Anyone else have these issues.