Dear Butterfly


well first let me welcome you to the forums! i've been so in and out i don't believe i've done so... (if i have i've forgotten! in which case, forgive me, and please allow me to welcome you again!!! )

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i am very indecisive but how i behave as a result varies. when i'm down i tend not to buy anything because of my inability to choose. when my mood is up i tend to do what you are talking about... by the same piece of clothing in every color of the rainbow... and start looking at similar styles, etc etc... also i don't return the clothes i keep them. i also buy doubles if i really like stuff in that case..... (which isn't a decisional factor.)

any of my friends or family will roll their eyes when my turn comes to order at a restaurant. no matter what mood, i don't order triple what i can eat... but i've changed my mind several times. if i'm more on the down side, i'm usually too demure and will stay with my first order. when i'm more up, i'm a waiter's nightmare. i've changed my mind several times on the spot, confusing the waiter, changed it again when he/she tried to confirm the order, made special requests/tweaks to the menu, and after all was said and done, had hime/her called back to change my order completely.

I've bought excess perishables because of excess of ideas of what to do with them and cooked up storms on impulse and disregard for time and planning of their consumption... again up mood.

On the other hand, in no mood have i bough "tuples" of perishables, due to the inability to decide which was the "best."

To me that suggests a form of perfectionism so high it enters obsessive territory and renders your decision-making dysfunctional. now i do NOT suggest you are obsessive overall, nor have OCD (that dx requires a full range of symptoms). i am only wondering if that indecisive behavior with the grapes might not be driven by excessive perfectionism, or an (albeit momentary) obsession with your decisional criteria. something to ponder perhaps?




~ waves ~