I learned the hard way too about oral issues. I wasn't told the truth either, and spent alot on my oral care, that was just a money making issue for the dentist. Then I found this site, and learned all I could. This was followed by a very very knowledgeable dentist, who also has compassion. Rare find.....
Your mouth will get healthy in time. Just keep doing all the right things and question all proceedures. Sorry you have had to go through so much. ginnie