mamawife,

lightrail has given you good advice. Plus, you should make every effort to connect with a Brain Injury Support group. Post the state and town where you live and I can research a support group for you.

Has your husband 'accepted' his injuries and dysfunctions, or is he in denial? Learning to understand the difference between his normal behaviors and the behaviors of his injured brain can be a big help. He likely has good and bad days. Accepting the bad days as do nothing days but looking for the good days to get things done can help.

As lightrail said, diagnostics to define his dysfunctions so a plan of action can be started is a big help.

What diagnostics has he had so far?
What advice from doctors and therapists is he refusing to follow?

More information about him, his general health and habits , his injury, his eating and drinking habits, family structure (kids, etc), education/training/past jobs, and daily activities will help us better understand how to help.

For you, the most important issue is to find a TBI support group.

My best to you.