I am sorry for your brother in law, and for the rest of the family. Both my parents were alcoholics. I grew up with it, begged them to stop most of my life. This for the most part is up to the individual to stop. My father only did when he got cancer of the throat. My mother had heart issues and had to take blood thinners. She, God rest her soul, snuck it in. Your brother in law, no matter what you do, has to realize himself, that he has a problem, and wants to change. Needless to say, I am not a drinker, because of what I was exposed to. You can mention AA, leave him loving notes, but in the end, it is his choice in how he wants to conduct himself. I will keep all of you in my prayers. ginnie