My first shot at drying out was the Wife™ taking my debit card and putting the gas in my VW van for me to get to work and back. That didn't work, I found cash elsewhere. They tried forcing me to go to AA. That didn't work, I resented it. Then she kicked me out of the house at Christmas. That didn't work, I enjoyed the freedom.

Skip ahead.

I lost my job, lost my van, got divorced, became a recluse, got a DUI, spent 3 months in jail, slept in a shelter. That worked.

Sometimes rock-bottom is the answer, unfortunately. I pray this is not the case for you, but promise me you will not shun him, he knows not how his actions affect others.