Hi Emily---I get it --I ended a very long term realtionship-- which was hard !! It it was very good one (or so I thought it was) --for a longtime --but I was healthy and stronger and could do a million things. I found out the reality of it--based on reactions of my medical procedures-- if things even went slightly south for me medically so did the realtionship. I finally faced the reality and ended it. You should not enter a marriage with all these issues. We all as human beings deserve love with out condtions!!