I now have ALL the books in this thread sitting in front of me, looking fwd 2 reading them all

The one I absolutely must start with first is this one:

Blink: The Power of Thinking Without Thinking by Malcolm Gladwell ..............

´But Gottman, it turns out, can teach us a great deal about a critical part of rapid cognition known as thin-slicing.
"Thin-slicing" refers to the ability of our unconscious to find patterns in situations and behavior based on very narrow slices of experience´

A good friend also recommended another one which hasn´t arrived yet:

http://www.amazon.com/Quiet-Power-In.../dp/0307352145


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