I understand how you feel about your ex's family - my mom always said that when she divorced our dad (after 36 years of marriage), she didn't divorce his family so she continued to visit them and invite them to her new home. Now, 25 years later, when my dad died, she came to the funeral and cried with all her extended family. Not because her ex had died, but because all his family were grieving him so much and she felt bad for them. Her 2nd husband attended also and supported her. I guess we were one of the first "extended-step" families.

Glad you made it through the holidays and good luck on your choice of a new job.