sandwalker,

Good question. In my experience, there is a big difference between a crying baby at a restaurant or store and the crying of your own baby. I have a grand-daughter who is teething. When her gums hurt, she will screen and shake until we get some Oragel on her gums. I tolerate it OK. My favorite thing is to get her to settle down and fall asleep on my chest. I lay her on my chest while reclined in my recliner. I stroke her back and rub her head. She is usually tired from crying but needs to settle down. When she does, it is wonderful.

Raising children will be a challenge but it always is. Establishing a low stress household will create a great place to raise children. You can do this. You need to continue to learn these skills and be sure your girlfriend is fully on-board with these skills.

My best to you.