The nurse in me sees something more going on.

I tend to agree with you there Doydie.
It is always hard to know where to draw the line in such situations, but maybe husband and BIL might consider that the 'Fun' will end when mom is all dressed up and has no interested male visitors...and no place to go?

This must be especially hard for you; trying to keep everyone happy.
In my thoughts and prayers .

With love, Erika