So Sorry Floridagal,

Yes, your intellience is intact. Paid caregivers usually are very helpful. Have you called her supervisor do disscuss it with her? Your intelligence is telling you to do something. The first thing your intellengence will tell you is to try. Are your emotions getting in the way. Intellengence should overcome emotions everytime.It does take practice to strenghthen that side of your brain. NOW is the time to make a change before you make it a habit.

Make list with two columns. In the first column, write down all the reasons you should not change or call your caregivers supervisor. Try to list pracitcal reasons based on logic, not emotions. In the second column make a list of reasons why you should. Include things outside of your life. Is the caregiver caring for other vulnerable patients? Are they unable to call?

After you have your list, take action. Either accept your caregiver's care or call her supervisor. You do not have to be specific about why you prefer someone else. Just say, "We are not a good fit." If you believe this to be true, if it is not what you believe, just be honest about your caregiver's behaivior. Keep track of examples of behaivior that displeases you. Learn to use mindfullness before makeing impulsive acts or any decision in your life. Life is a gift for you. Don't reject it.

Dianna