Dear Butterfly,

Yes, these situations are complicated. I am very glad that you ran into the aunt -- otherwise you could wonder if it is about you.

I think that he is busy with taking care of his daughter and keeping up with the new woman.

Thank goodness that you are o.k. after hearing about this. It is hard to lose a friend and then deal with the other people involved as well. It is sort of a double and triply hurt. We hurt about the friend passing and we hurt when we think about the survivors. There are so many aspects of mourning that no one warns us about.
M