There was a period a few months into recovery that my doctor sat down with my boyfriend and said that until I was further recovered, I needed other people to help me fight my battles. So for example, instead of me dealing with my completely clueless lawyer, my mom and boyfriend dealt with him directly and made decisions. If it was something they felt I needed to be included in, they would talk to me about it, adn then get back to the lawyer.

As for toxic people, if they aren't supporting you then forget about them. You can always go back later and try to build a relationship with them. But right now you've got enough to fight back against to recover, that you dont' need the added negativity on top of it. I had to make the concious decision that if people weren't being supportive, they were not going to be a part of my recovery. I simply couldn't allow my precious little amount of energy to be drained in such an unproductive way, letting their negativity suck the life out of me.

Build a support system with family and friends that understand. Perhaps you need to have a serious talk with those around you and say that you need them on your team, helping you get better, NOT negativity and hurtful ways.

As for your caseworker and the state, is there someone in your family, a friend etc that could make those calls for you? I know it's a big thing to ask someone, but it really is necessary that you avoid that stress and anger if you want to move forward. A lot of times they will want you to be a part of the call at the beginning to tell them that you are okay with this person speaking on your behalf. But that way, you aren't the one fighting, you have a freind/family member fighting for you.