I know what you are going thru as it has been 3 years since my surgery. I woke up and was parallyzed also. Couldnt put my contacts in, feed myself or anything. The doctor would only say give it time and never would talk to me about it. Never even recommended PT at first. Didnt even bother to talk to me after the surgery had the anesthesiolgist come talk to me. Anyways for the most part I can use my arm now though I still have trouble with arm heaviness and pain still. The doctor wants to do more sugery but at this point I am scared to to that. I was paralyzed for 2 months.
I hope your doctor talks with you and that you do better than I have done. Its not easy to find much information on this. Was in PT a couple months ago but that was a joke as all they did was basically a massage.