I don't have PD, but other health issues. I had a caregive/friend for 14 years. I am grieving now, because I lost this friendship. I could not take being told what to do so much. It was control, in most facets of my life. I would suck up being told what to do for just so long, then I would have a meltdown and start screaming. This was not healthy for me or for her. I was afraid to go to my own fridge, as I was afraid of putting something back on the wrong shelf. At the store, I didn't get to push the cart, or pick the food, I followed with her list, like a sick puppy. I had to make a change so I did. Now I am terrified of being alone, but it is better than being told when to make the coffee etc.
I know about controlling people.
I live in Fla. too. Where are you located? We all stive to have peace of mind. Change can be awful, and I don't know yet if I did the right thing to let her go. I was just so darn unhappy. ginnie