Kids need to know and be told in honest, age appropriate language. Knowledge is power, regardless of age. Plus, kids are much smarter than adults give them credit for. They know when something is wrong and just need someone to explain it to them in a developmentally correct manner, with honesty and kindness. And really, kids do just fine with the information once it's given to them the right way. I've seen it literally 1000's of times in my work as a Certified Child Life Specialist.

By the way, Rasheeda's book is, in my opinion, very well done.