First, take a deep breath - there are lots of things it may be, and lots of reasons why things don't show up the first time.

Don't give up, don't despair, and don't ever feel that you can't come here for support. There are lots of people in a similar situation to you - nobody thinks you are nuts, and sometimes, it just takes time, or there may be another dozen logical reasons (many of which are far more palatable and easier to fix) for all the nasty things you are experiencing.

Please take care, and keep us posted