He is only 10 and likely wants to please his dad and team mates. His judgement will not be mature. You need to help him and your husband make the right decision. Continued mental strain will leave him even more confused about his own welfare.

Has his personality changed ? Is he more impulsive and argumentative ? Harder to get him to finish a project ? These are signs of his brain struggling to function. It was a miserable existence for me at that age.

My best to you both as you struggle with this decision.