Thanks Sally. She is paronoid schizophrenic, numerous shock treatment when she was younger and most of her huge family pretty just left her emotionally and physically. Her husband divorced her. So I don't think she would understand if I did talk to her. My husband seems to need me there with him because if it is just the two of them neither one of them know how to talk and communicate. They pretty much just sit there. I know because I have tried to sit and be silent so that they are forced to talk and they don't. When I am there I draw her out and she talks and laughs. If I am sick on a Thursday he will call her and say we are coming the next day. Plus she is my MIL, I would miss her if I didn't go.