Dear Donna,

Well i would feel awkward saying Happy Anniversary when clearly it has not been happy.

But please accept my CONGRATULATIONS. Then when you celebrate we can wish you happy belated anniversary. that could work.

I'm sorry Derrick got hurt somehow. I hope this will get figured out - well I know it will. THe body has a way of making its issues known, even if at first they are not obvious. Sometimes pain does not come out right away, because in response to physical damage the brain releases endorphins that kills the pain. Later, as inflammation increases and the endorphins subside what is wrong makes itself felt, even it if is not visible. However, do please take him to the ER right away if you have doubts. (I am not clear on what happened here.) He might need an Xray... something might be broken and need to be set... I have a concern that if nothing is visibly out of place yet he is gradually experiencing some pain, he might have cracked something.

As for his being sorry to get hurt on your anniversary, it's funny to hear it from someone else, but I can relate. I often feel guilty for my migraines and how they inconvenience others, even if I can't stop them. I get to thinking about how I might have been able to prevent or lessen the impact on others. Anyway, talk to him, if you haven't, but I know he'll be ok. He's got a good head on his shoulders. It just was not a good coincidence for either of you in this sense.

I wish Derrick well and I really hope also for your sake that things become clearer and he gets appropriate treatment if necessary, so that this worry can be lifted. You have so many worries.

Again congratulations. 32 years is nothing to sneeze at. I know, what if you looked at it this way: think of this is a typical day that exemplifies the struggles you've been through in 32 years, and along comes your child with his heart of gold - which he got from you - to remind you why it was so worth it ... andthensome.



~ waves ~