hi kelly, thankyou hun for your advice, its nice to know there is someone to chat to who is going hro the same thing,... we are trying to stay as possative as we can and we have a game of the r.s.d. is the alien who wants to stop emma doing the things she wants and the pain is him loseing the battle lol it seems to help emma deal with it better, would you know if there is a childrens site where kids can talk to other kids with r.s.d ??. i wish you well hun xx