I have four kids and I find that he truth is always best. If you don't tell them they actually think things are alot worse. I try and take a team approach. I am single and was in bed for almost 4 months with only teenagers to take care of everything. I found the more the new the better it is for everyone and as a family you can work things out. All of my kids have decided to take jobs to help ease the financial burden. The one time having 4 kids can really be helpful.

Best of luck, I know it is an ongoing struggle.