Hi not sure if there is a book. But I can so relate sounds like some of the same things I went through with my one child some years ago. He is now 31 and is leading a good life.
We had a hard time getting a diagnosis, his ended up being Intermittent
Explosive disorder. And one of the sythoms for it is not remembering things.
I mean even 5 minutes after it happened. I couldn't believe the things, his friends had to tell me that went on.
I had to find ways to get through it.
Hopefully you have a friend to talk to. Have you a therapist of your own.
This is one thing you will need. Someone you can talk too.
IT is also something you can do here. But you might have more talkling
to you in the adult room. But that would be okay.
I will look into a book, it will be a few days. I am only on short periods.
Donna