Your 13 yo should be doing a lot of stuff by now, and should be able to even cook simple meals (and it's the best way to teach him to take care of himself later on). The 7 yo can do things like take out the trash and unload the dishes. Getting them to do it is a different matter! I fight with my 10 yo all the time trying to get her to do stuff.

It's hard to ask for help, but you have to do it. I get that you make all your meals by scratch, I usually do to (I even garden and can food), but it's so hard to do things like hold a knife sometimes that I just can't sometimes. Just getting somebody to cut things up for me really helps. Getting somebody to take things out of the fridge and put them back even helps. I have to ask people to open jars and bottles now. I have to ask somebody to carry the heavy laundry basket back to the machine. I have to take much longer to get anything done, and I have to plan for it.

You just need a GOOD doctor. If I wasn't on my anti-seizure med, I wouldn't be able to work either. I work full time and my husband is a (lazy) SAHD. We'd be really messed up without my paycheck. I really worry about the future and how bad I'll get, and thankfully I've gotten better a little due to the right meds and supplements. Currently I'm just trying to deal with the breakthrough pain as the actual PN is getting worse. It started in my feet and is now in my hands and random other spots.

I know you've heard this before, but the best way to be a good mom is to take care of yourself first. You need to be on the right treatment plan. A pain management doc can prescribe the right meds for you, both pain relief and anti-seizure.