Welcome to Neuro Talk. You are not alone in this. Parenting, no matter how hard you try, sometimes things just go wrong. As a parent you get hurt, because you feel a failure. I know, I feel that way too, and have gone through the loss you are now facing. My daugher married a controlling man, I have no contract with her, and it devistated me, to the core. I also have a grandchild I am not permitted to see or know, he is 4 years old now. Sometimes, no matter how hard you try, things in a family just don't work out. You didn't fail anymore than I did. ____t Happens. It can happen to the best of people. I am sorry your neighbors, have reacted as they have. You do need support. I went for council for a number of years. I also have a friend who is a psychologist, who tried without success to intervene on my behalf. Maybe council would help you through the hard parts. Keep coming back to Neuro Talk. I have found good friends here, who do not judge, or condemn me because this happened. I will keep you in my thoughts and prayers. I will also listen. ginnie