Wow, Netterz.

To say you have so much on your plate sounds like a feeble platitude ... if you'll forgive the almost-pun.

that's good you plan to start counseling for yourself - even just supportive talk therapy would be great in such a situation. besides, a professional could probably give some solid practical advice on how to handle the family situations, as well as help with emotional coping techniques.

welcome to the forums. and i wish you well.

waves