I'm thinking mine is mostly my own fault.

I'm home by myself 99% of the time. I have no reason to primp and/or try to make myself look better. And I know that's a bad reason but a lot of the time I just have no energy to do those things. Getting up, showering and putting on clean clothes zaps all my energy. I have to conserve somewhere.

Sometimes I wonder if my DH were still alive and here with me if I'd make more of an effort. Probably, because he'd be doing a lot of the chores I do now that takes most of my energy. I'd have more energy to try harder and more of a reason to look better. I know, looking better for me should be enough but.................