Well... Girlfriends come, girlfriends go. Not that I don't see your point. I do.

I agree it is ideal in such circumstances to turn away and find a good person who is available. If anything, one can say to oneself, that if this is meant to be, an opportunity to be with the (currently unavailable) person will present itself in the future, regardless of what we do and of whom we might be with.

However I also understand Majo's difficulty letting go of feelings. I personally find it hard to turn off feelings based on circumstance. My feelings do change depending on how someone treats me, but their having a girlfriend is simply a circumstance. I can avoid inappropriate behavior, out of respect for the relationship, but turning off the feelings is a different kettle of fish... for me anyway.

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