Hi Ed. I don't want to sound hash or that I don't understand, but I agree with Mark, and as I mentioned on one of your other posts, self-blame and self-pity are not productive responses to trauma. So in a direct answer to your question above, here are some suggestions based on things that have worked for me.

You didn’t say what kind of medical care or therapies you are receiving, other than you were looking for a new neurologist. Also consider a Neuropsychological Assessment from a clinical neuropsychologist. NPA testing can help identify specific deficit areas, and recommend appropriate therapies. For me this included speech, occupational and physical therapies. If depression is one of these deficits perhaps therapy such as Cognitive behavioral therapy (CBT) and/or medication may be helpful.

Look for a brain injury support group. Check http://www.biausa.org/ for resources in your state.

Other things that have helped me include:

Yoga. I joined a studio that incorporates meditative practice along with gentle stretching postures.

Mindfulness meditation. I found a continuing education class in meditation at a local community college.

Massage therapy. Helped with my muscle spasms and assists in relaxation and alleviating anxiety.

Essentially, we need to be accountable for driving our own recovery. The support groups can help with this. Wishing you well in your recovery journey.