I guess maybe I am not saying it correctly or something - my spinal cord is flattened and bruised (myelomalacia) from the damage in my neck. I have flare ups of pain from time to time that are pretty intense and last about a week, and a bit of pain all the time that limits my ROM. But I have loss of fine motor control in my hands, tingling in my hands off and on every day, bladder issues, balance issues, feel like things are crawling up my legs all the time, and my arm and leg on my left side randomly "goes to sleep" during the day. It doesn't hurt, but the doctors say I will wake up with some kind of paralysis at some point if I don't have surgery and they only hope that these things will get better if I have surgery now, but have advised that they probably won't. So, should I wait until I am completely paralyzed for surgery?