After 22 years of marriage I found out my husband has brain issues that have confounded me for years. He has ADD, low working memory and learning disabilities. Also, anxiety and alcoholism. He hid it all from me except the alcoholism which he has had under control for 25 years. Now, I see why this marriage has been so difficult and unfulfilling and CONFUSING! I'm 56 and grieving over never having children. We spent 5 years working on adoption and then he "changed his mind" at the last minute! I'm working on leaving and moving on, but am still in shock about his diagnosis and trying to figure out what my life is about now. I screwed up my career-we had plans that fell through because of him. I just feel like I need to get my footing, have new goals, new friends and feel optimistic and happy once again! ANY suggestions will help. Thanks.