had the carpal tunnel surgery already...I do my wrist exercises occasionally to keep everything loosened (when I remember to)

I'm trying (when I remember) to think of what I CAN do...not what I CAN'T do. I've been reading (and finally finished) "the Power of Now" by Eckhart Tolle. He states that acceptance of what is can release you from getting enmeshed in it and prevent you from becoming a victim. I totally agree with him. He doesn't dismiss the pain and suffering; also says if you can change the situation, go for it; he just states to not get enmeshed in the wrongness or unfairness of the situation. It's difficult to do, I admit, but I agree with him.
Making the best of a bad situation is what it's all about..."deal the hand your dealt", "make lemonade out of the lemons you've been given"...all of those edicts are part of the same advice...otherwise, our misery is quadrupled by our enmeshment in the situation.
Now I am one of the best "Why me-ers" around...so I don't often walk my talk...but if I can remember even for an hour to practice this philosophy, I feel so much more at peace...at least until the next spasm hits, or I mess my pants uncontrollably