Angelina, I’m so sorry that this is happening. And yes, CRPS is called the stress disease. Stressors or ANY kind and emotional instability will definitely affect you and your disease in a negative way. Naturally you are protective of your father, but ultimately you are the child in this situation, albeit an adult child, but a child to your father nonetheless, so it may not have occurred to him to check with you on this situation. However, I do believe some common courtesy would have gone a LONG way on both their parts. And yes, having a woman move in after just one date, yikes! Um, yeah I think I too would be protective of my elder parent and have to have a moment with them to voice my concerns. I think the least among those concerns would be redecorating, but moreover what the heck is going on moving a STRANGER into your home? Hopefully your father would be compassionate and defend your feelings in this situation. Again, I am terribly sorry this is happening to you. If you can, do your best to try and keep emotions in check, and perhaps rational thinking will prevail.