Rogue -

As always, Jo's comments are right on the mark.

That said, were I in your shoes, there isn't a decision on your list I would not have made myself in the name of life and love. But then, I've always been partial to redwood rain forests, and have given explicit instructions that's where I want my ashes to go when the time comes. (Either that, or a wooden pire with lots of sandlewood oil on some hillside overlooking the Pacific, but that's not going to happen as long as the funeral industry has lobbyists in Sacramento.)

Mike

p.s. You and Michael are lucky to have found each other. But then you knew that already!