We are blessed by your sharing here dear Mark. And I am the cause of your misspelling his name.....sorry.
Our son left behind an 8 yr. old son when he killed himself. That boy, now a grown man with children of his own, has never grieved properly and is "stuck" in that awful anger stage. His wonderful wife and I communicate privately and I am trying to reach out to him. He doesn't want to discuss it!
She said he becomes angry if she brings it up. It's so hard to help someone unless they are in your arms and you can look them in the eyes.
Yesterday I mailed him a packet of old letters his dad sent us and a book about suicide. We've sent him things that were his dads before but I've never tried a "front on" suicide discussion. If it angers him so be it. I'll continue to love him from afar.
Mr.Alffe is hollering for his breakfast! Later gator.