I am just wondering if this can all be true. I think I drink too much. I dont (usually) do anything stupid, but I do black out. Therefore, I drink too much. My husband is amazing. He really is the best. Does the housework, laundry, cooking, vacuuming, ect... but he drinks beer every night. So therefore I drink wine every night. Ank my tolerence is building up. Not good. I dont know what to do.

A lot of people think that a blackout is the same as passing out. It's not. Blackouts happen when your brain essentially stops but your body keeps right on a-going. About as safe as putting a blindfold on and driving the car.

It's not really an issue of whether or not you do anything stupid, but of what those chemicals are doing to your body, & what your body may do (like drive a car) while your mind isn't in charge.
You drink every night because your husband does--is that so? Excuse me, but you drink every night because your body has developed a need for it every night. It's not your tolerance that has built up, it's your addiction.

No, it's not good. & you do know what to do: Get help. That's why you're here.

Darkside, how are you getting on? Please let us know how things are going.
I understand to a degree what your going through, as my Hubby was alcohol dependent and had been for years. He was lucky, as he had me to help him through.
Your Hubby may not be supporting you, but always remember there is support here!
Think about how proud you will be of YOURSELF, doing this by yourself!
I'm proud of you and I don't even know you!

My Hubby has been abstinent just over 14 mths now

Take good care
Buttercup x

Leigh, I think your taking massive health risks. If your blacking out, your body is telling you it cant cope with these toxins.
My philosophy is, if you think you may be drinking to much, then you are!
Please sit down and think about this. I know to well the health implications of alcohol addiction, after watching my Hubby go through it and his health problem now and he has been abstinent 14 mths.
Take care and good luck.
Buttercup x

I support what you are trying to do. I wish my huband would have done the same, his drinking problem led to depression and to then attemp suicide. I found him in enought time to save his life by givving CPR, but had he gotten treatment I don't think it would have led to that. So don't ever let anyone hold you back from what u feel is right if you want to live life sober than that's what you should do, If your loved ones don't support you than perhaps finding a friend that does would help.

My husband wasn't very supportive of me getting sober either. He would say that he was but then he would drink in front of me. I'm not making excuses, but it just made getting sober harder for me. I urge you to do everything in your power to stop. If you continue drinking the way that you are you're going to develop serious health problems. I hope you haven't relapsed again, but even if you have don't give up. You can get better, you CAN stop drinking. If you need to talk to anyone privately please feel free to message me. Good luck.

Hi Lutopia, sitting here half way through a Litre of Bushmills Whiskey.

I use it to mask other conditions but at the end of the day it is just another crutch to suport me.

I so admire you for your willpower to stay sober, it sure as hell is not the easy option. It is so easy to blur out the real problems with alchohol (as I am trying to do) rather than face things head on. YOU ARE GREAT.

Sounds like your sobriety scares him. Have you tried Al-Anon? Can you get to meetings during times like when he is working to get the support you need? I think a women's meeting would be a good place for you to be.

Hun i FEEL YOU PAIN, IT MUST BE HARD. when i WENT FOR HELP IN 2003 MY HUSBAND STOPPED Drinking to help me. H e did not have a problem.I did

Just do your program and one day he will see how great your doing. I know it's hard in the beginning. Reward your self.Get your nails done go tanning.Go to closed discussion group and get help there. Keep saying the serenity prayers.Accept the things we can change and the things we cannot. We cant change him and your doing awesome. Big hugs and congrats one day at a time.