my husband is not supporting me in my sobriety,he does not think i have a problem. at one time i had seven years of being sober and then relapsed and met him when i was drinking he thinks i should drink agian, i was blacking out all the time acting like a jerk binge drinking my liver count was in the 40 + got yelled at by my doc iwas hiding and sneaking my drinking,my daughter on many times saw me falling down drunk,,,,no problem i guess. he gets ****** when i go to meetings he thinks they are negative its just so hard.

You really do have a lot on your plate darkside. Do you have a counselor? It's mean of him not to support you in your efforts.

does he drink also -but not have a "problem" with it?

blackouts and such are bad things

my bro has those once in awhile...
he goes way beyond his limit those times.

I think some just can not tolerate drinking, whether it is a little or a lot.

You need to do what is best for your health and well being, it's sad that your dh doesn't understand this..

maybe he doesn't like the changes or makes him feel guilty

It is your life do what you need to live it the best you can.

I don't know you, but I'm very sorry you're husband isn't more supportive. When people in our lives are like that, we have to be extra kind to ourselves. It's hard to be strong all the time so we have to do the best we can. Staying sober is a huge step forward in your life. I'm very proud of you for taking that step.
It sounds like your husband is jealous that you are spending time away from him. Maybe your drinking makes you more dependent on him, and he is afraid of loosing that power, or your attention? I think its important to keep his problem from becoming your problem, because just learning to cope without drinking is huge, without having to deal with another person's issues on top of your own. Be sure to talk to your sober friends so you have an outlet to get the support he isn't giving you.

Hi Darkside ~ Boy, I can understand what you're going thru. It sounds to me like "misery loves company." I suspect your husband drinks and he wants some company, right? He doesn't want to drink alone! Is this true?

The same was true of my now "ex." I got sober, and he didn't. When I was drinking, I too was a blackout drinker. I didn't know what I did EVER. I couldn't remember anything. I drank heavily for 20 years, and my poor kids had to watch me be a drunk. When I got sober, I made the best amends I could to my kids, and thank God they forgave me. But my husband didn't like the idea that I wasn't drinking anymore. In fact, he'd ask me to mix HIM drinks all the time!!! I told him where to go, cause that's just plain cruel when you're trying to get sober.

I went to meetings every night for 90 days, and sometimes twice a day. I got into service work, I worked the steps. I got a sponsor and did what I was told. This year by the grace of God, I'll be celebrating 17 years clean/sober. So it can be done!!! You dont HAVE to have your husband's support. You just need to know that you have your meetings for support, your Higher Power, and you need to have faith in yourself. You CAN do this!

Best of luck and God bless and remember ~ keep on keepin on. Hugs, Lee

I'm so pleased you found us, and believe me when I say how sorry I am that you have this to contend when you're trying so hard to stay sober yourself.

I have an alcoholic sister who's put me through so much pain over the years, but although this has gone on for a long time, she still will not admit to her own failings. She blames her drinking on everyone but herself.

Even though our situations are different, please know I have some understanding of your predicament.

Please stick around. Hopefully we'll be able to help you through your struggle.

Hi Darkside, I just wanted to say that I'm glad you're trying to be sober.

I'm sorry your husband isn't more supportive, but if you need to do this for someone other then yourself, do it for your daughter. My mom just went back to rehab because of her drinking. It's just so devestating for a child to watch their parents drink; and it has damaged me more then a little. The children of a alcoholic usually blame themselves for their parents' problems. And worse, it will teach them that drinking will solve their problems. But if you quit, you'll be teaching her a much healthier and happier way to live!

Trust me I know how hard this is for you, and I'm happy you're trying so hard. It will get easier, especially now that you have the support of everyone here. Just keep telling yourself that you're doing it for your daughter, she needs you to be strong so she can learn to be strong.

yes, sponsor?

Sponsorship and outward focused participation!

You would not like it if I were your sponsor.