Pam,
Maybe it was for the better that he did allow himself to take his Dad up there. Probably was good for both of them to see this together. I think his Dad and brother realize they are quite proud of DB.

You are correct; your DIL is in complete denial. No person that drinks and as addicted as she is will ever be able to drink like "normal" people do.

I'm sure DB is looking forward to coming home. The lifelong commitment is and will always be a part of DB's recovery.


Gerry

I know Gerry, I am so looking forward to having him home in a safe environment, and not only because it's safe. I miss him, even though we talk each day by messenger or Skype it's just the knowing he is here in the house where I can reach out and hug him.

I can't help but feel for BIL.

Darn right DB should be proud of himself. He's got enough Valium to get him home on the flight and has a psych appointment the following day.

I have been using Valium for quite some time. They are for muscle spasms, as well as anxiety. They have really helped the spasms on the left side of neck and shoulder. I take two 5mg's a day (sometimes cut in half). At times, they do tend to cause some tiredness, as well as sleepiness.

I believe you have mentioned in the past about DB being tired/sleepy. How many/mg's does he take a day? I assume the Valiums are also helpful with alcohol recovery as well. If he is running low, occasionally, he may want to break in half. There is a line to help break in half evenly.

This has been a long and somewhat stressful trip. Both of you are ready for a great "big hug" with one another.

Gerry

Hi Gerry, he doesn't take the Valium on a regular basis. 5mg is used for high stressor trigger situations. He took it every day for the first month he gave up and in the last 12 months maybe needed it on 4 occasions. It is a good idea and I wish it was the Valium causing his tiredness. The psych says it's caused by memories still coming up, things he has pushed down and buried for decades.

Has begun the long journey home, leaving with a heavy heart. The hardest part will be the 7 hr wait at Heathrow. I've told him to buy some adult colouring books and puzzles. Bringing home a beautiful red glass Welsh dragon. It will take pride of place on the piano.
Edit note
His Brother & wife took him to train in Cardiff so he didn't have to catch the valleys train first, very emotional goodbye according to my SIL. She tells me the boys went to see their sister last night but she was out of it so they only stayed 30minutes and then 2 hours later she rang dad wanting to know when DB was going up there. Dad said he's been & gone - you were too drunk to realise & put the phone down on her.

Pam,
Pray he will get thru the long journey home. Thankfully, he knows you are waiting for him. I'll bet he is looking forward for you to see the Welsh dragon and its having a "special" place on the piano. This will be quite meaningful.

Really good to know how well he and his brother got along. So sad about his sister. His Dad and he appeared to get along very well. Hopefully the heavy heart will soon be replaced with thoughts of many good memories.

Thanks again for sharing.


Gerry

Pamela, I don't have much to add to what Gerry wrote, all which I agree with.

I hope that the flight isn't too tedious (they are never fun).

It is great that you and DB will be back together again soon .

I'm at the airport feeling like a young child at the Showgrounds. So looking forward to seeing him

Pam,

How exciting;..... "absence makes the heart grow fonder".....and "my hero".....

Gerry

How good is that number. DB says he has been in the lions den and come through unscathed. Of course there are many sad things gleaned from this trip home but for now it's important we celebrate his achievement and acknowledge the effort & willpower. I've paid for a head, neck & shoulder massage & a full body massage to have which ever one he wants to when he is a bit more with it this week before he goes back to work, which ever one he doesn't have it's valid for 12 months.