I have this feeling of euphoria, it's the only word to explain how I light I feel. We heard this morning SIL is going to 27 weeks worth of rehab. Something big happened last Sunday & it must have been her rock bottom because the family were saying she is definitely not going. Now her bags are packed and they pick her up at 9am Tuesday. I've sent an email to DB as he had left for work before I rang the UK. (I just thought stuff it, I have to know & if it means I talk to BIL so be it) Gosh if I feel this light it will surely make DB feel over the moon. I truly didn't realise how much the sadness of her was pulling me down so I can only imagine it has been overwhelming for DB. I feel like skipping and dancing

Home from the game, we won but it was a hard fought 4 quarter grind. Each quarter lasts approx 29 to 31 minutes, depending on how much time on has been added throughout the qtr. I believe DB & I may well be voiceless tomorrow. Crowd of 38000, in the end we won by 19 points, but we only took the lead in the final qtr. DB did really well to get through it without even thinking of a drink. Great steps made tonight. I'm lucky in love that's for sure (lol) he's home now watching the Liverpool game in the big screen. Me, I've gone to bed! I'm exhausted after all that yelling!

Pamela, that is great about DB's SIL - I hope that the rehab helps her.

That is awesome about the game (AFL I guess) - glad that your team got up and especially that DB had fun there without feeling a need to drink .

Just paid for tickets - DB birthday gift. Haven't been to a concert in years.

That is great - I hope that you both enjoy the concert .

Missed the chance to edit the comment. Birthday is in July, concert is in November. I overheard him telling a friend how much he'd like to go. I have already bought his birthday gifts, being as ill as I get at times, I tend to shop well in advance. Liverpool football supporter & AFL West Coast Eagles supporter. Makes for easy gifts... anyhoo I got tickets with pretty good seats $212 each. If I say it quick it doesn't hurt lol.

Well; best to get when "hints" are out there even if not until July; plus it's something both of you will enjoy. (Wonder if he and I might share a mutual birthday; i.e., July 15.)

Gerry

July 18, close... he was born something like 8 - 10 weeks prem though

DB is being an absolute jerk these last few days. As usual when I'm unwell he has his petty temper tantrums. Good Friday I've always had fish, we've had fish for the 25 years we've been married on Good Friday. Last night he came in while I was on the phone to my friend and threw the parcel and bottle of soft drink on the bench, I said good bye to my friend and endured him crapping on for the next 20 minutes about why he couldn't understand how I couldn't drive to get the food because I've got a headache but I could talk on the phone. I dont have just a normal headache. It's severe enough for my GP to want me to be in hospital and I've not driven the car since Tuesday. Well actually I drove it Thursday but I don't remember doing it. I went shopping for Easter eggs, I know I did because I've a vague memory of selecting eggs for DB, mum and the kids and the eggs are here in the house. DB would not have got eggs for my family. Anyhow he has a severe case of the PLOMS.
We had a gardener in to give a quote for doing various things so the house can be cleared up and if necessary sold. DB read the quote and won't have it done because it's things he says he can do. Yes indeed, he could do them, but in order for that to happen he needs to get off of his backside. He spends his days off lying on the bed listening to relaxation, meditation or motivational recordings. I'm sure they are good but I don't think you're meant to spend 12 hours unless your planning on becoming a Buddhist. As soon as one finishes he puts another one on and so the days pass and nothing gets done around the house. On Wednesday morning I moved the 2 large limestone blocks that have needed to be moved for the last 5 years, swept the pathway to the shed clear and in general gave the area a good cleanup. Nothing gets done here unless I do it.
We are supposed to be looking at a house today (to buy) closer to his work, I saw it last week, it would be suitable with a few adjustments made to have security and separation areas for the dogs. The mood he is in (spiteful) I wonder if we will go and yet the move is to help him so there is less work to do around the house & it's closer to work for him. Last night after the throwing of the fish n chips he gabbled on about drinking blah blah blah. I told him some 30 min later he should send an apology to my girlfriend.

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DB apologised to me for his behaviour & throwing of the food last night, cited difficult past 2 weeks in work training the new dog, carrying the workload of his mate who has been ill and then me falling ill and of course everyone is gabbing on about drink, drink and more drink. I calmly accepted the apology and thanked him for it.
We went and looked at the house, it has much potential, but then on looking at ours, so does ours if we could both commit to doing the things that need doing even if it means spending money to get it up scratch. Once there it's easy to maintain. We came back home with that in mind. 10 minutes in he's horizontal and snoring. I don't really want to sell this house. It's our home and I love it. Maybe instead of celebrating 25yrs marriage I'll just get a handyman in without DB knowing about it...

I happened to see a rather good "no it's not "just a headache" you fool" meme earlier this week, explaining why not all headaches are equal.

As for the other things... for me, doing work in the house and the garden have been my way of "zoning out". There's something about physical labor that allows you to completely immerse yourself into it (endorphins?) - and it helped to keep my mind off drinking in the first years.

I'm happy that we had a bit of sun in the last 3 weeks as I could do a lot of work in the garden, clean up the pond and filters, start filters again, manually remove the weeds (talk about mind relaxation...) before they get a chance to take, pruning trees that got too big. I have this wonderful handsaw that cuts through wood like butter. I do have a chainsaw, but don't trust myself with it, and I'm kinda fond of attached limbs, but with this saw I don't even need it. Great way to get rid of some pent up aggression.

It's what I miss most during winter. The hard work also makes me sleep much better, and you see instant results, which is good for someone who loves instant gratification.

If you love your current house, I'd try to stay put. I know all too well how attached you can get to something you built up over the years. There are usually many small companies around that can do the hard garden work without costing a fortune.