That all sounds really excellent !

We're having the most wonderful time. Every day, I'm posting photos of the seeing on my FB page, it's full of family and friends we haven't seen for years and as things do one formed knows another, they tag them and relationships are being renewed. I'm amazed at how young we both look, despite me being 30 & DB 28 we look like we're in our early 20's.

There have been a few white knuckle days here for DB but in the main he is doing well. A Valium now and then has helped considerably.

We now wish we could extend the holiday, had I known it was going to be this relaxing and wonderful I would have booked for at least 4 extra nights.

Our own private courtyard plunge pool, sunset across the road over the famous Cable Beach & one of the pools by overlooked by one of the restaurants

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Pamela. that is just awesome for you both .

This was what greeted us as we were welcomed to our suite. I can't fault the resort, and they have been fabulous in offering support to me and DB, a bottle of champagne was given as a welcome gift & I had to ask them could we swap it for something non alcoholic. I can't thank them enough for their patience & compassion.

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DB first day back to work today post holiday, unlike me, I had to return last week. So today DB is feeling the nerves your get when you've been gone for a few weeks.

He has been really good. Lots of drama going on with his family, he's been speaking with SIL G every other night, trying to encourage her to do what's right by herself. SIL K causing no end of grief just because we celebrated our 25th. One niece particularly distraught, tried to take her life & since been prescribed Valium. I have my reservations over the prescriptions, I think she needs more than that, but being over here I can do nothing other than be supportive and maintain contact. Learned yesterday she's chucked her job in due to a warning she says over something happened outside of work. I've had to explain to her a business has the right to caution you if you are bringing their name into disrepute, even when you are not in work. It's the worst thing to have happened for her, to quit her job only days after an attempt on her life. DB wants to know nothing of it, I think it brings memories of his attempt to the fore of his mind. Drink wise, he has not mentioned alcohol at all and even with everything going on, seems to be more positive than he's been in some time.

We've taken in a lodger, she calls us Uncle & Aunty... she looked after the pets and the house while we were away, her circumstances changed last Monday & with me due to go into hospital, having someone here to do the pets takes some of the pressure off of DB. She is doing an apprenticeship (painter & decorator). Lovely girl, very good manners, our animals adore her, including the neurotic one. It may be temporary, it may be long term, don't know with young kids. But she is a good one & although she has the back wing of the house to herself, she prefers to come & sit out with us. She owes her mum $900 so the deal DB put to her is she pays us $100, we put $50 of that into an account each week so she can pay her mum back & she vacuums, dusts the house & cleans her bathroom. I do ours, but she will do ours once I have the op. She was paying $225 a week where she was previously. She knows I don't expect a full spring clean every week, just vacuum and dust as I used to do. So in all despite the stress, change etc DB is doing well.

That is excellent about DB, though I am sorry to read about everything that is going on with his family.

Your lodger sounds really good to me. I think that the idea of putting $50 per week into an account so she can replay her Mum is very thoughtful.

I hope that all goes well with the op.

All sounds good. (well, not you going into hospital, but you know what I mean. ) Having someone to stand watch must be a huge relief.

Apologies, too tired to type a new convo - I've copied from another thread of mine; today, one of my nurses totally cracked it, DB getting crankier by the day as I'm getting worse before his eyes, today one of my nurses who has been going home worrying over me paged the General Surgeon's no.2. 2 answered the page & my nurse said I've got this patient of yours in combination with a Neurosurgeon - she is spiking temps in excess of 40 every day, her haemoglobin is 76, she is having rigours, she is very unwell, she has resorted to attempting to explain her pain in as descriptive a manner as she can - she describes her pain as reactive arthritis (she suffered this in 1987). She is doing her utmost to comply with all our directions and all the while paint a clear picture here for us of just how unwell she is. We've been waiting on you for 5 days, 5 days. 2 nights ago she was carted off in the middle of the night for all sorts of tests & activity & still I have nothing. I can see her getting worse in front of my eyes... Her temp right now is 40, she is in the midst of another rigour, what are you going to do. ....
No 2 turns up & says has H been in here, uhm no? Voila like a magician he appears. He stands and says to me & my dear DB, I've looked at your scans, bloods etc, I'm sorry my dear but you have an infection, you have a haemotoma & you need urgent blood transfusions - now. We're sending you down to radiology now for a picc line to be inserted. The haemotoma will be lanced & drained tomorrow, the most important thing is to get some blood in you, get your temp under control along with your pain (btw I notice you've halved your pain meds, I said yes) so I'm increasing your pain meds back up for 3 days.

DB left as I was going down, he looks extremely stressed, I said it's ok, it's not history repeating itself, we'll be ok xxx sigh, I hope so, this explains why I'm so dog tired, dehydrated and in so much pain.... I wonder if the rhetoric rain will stop soon lol

My nurse ROCKS. If not for her I think I would have been discharged....

She may very well have saved your life. I can not understand this is still happening. <shake head smiley>

My BIL died in 2002 from a bleeding ulcer. He went to the ER with stomach pains. They didn't properly check him, they cut some corners, and only noticed when he had already bled to death.

Internal bleedings are so dangerous, and so well known.

Hope you'll start to feel a bit better when they "top you up". You can't fight an infection when you have not enough blood in you. I'll refrain from cursing, but that is just... grrr.

Any progress today?

No progess, had infectious diseases man in, we both met him last time in July, top chap. Talk of another blood transfusion, I don't care, just want the pain to stop & feel like a human 👀