Pam, it is great that you are putting your needs first and it is excellent to read about your healthy weight loss and increased mobility .

I hope that, while it is his call, DB does spend some time as an inpatient to deal with his Bipolar. When I spent about a month IP there were other people there with a Bipolar Dx - having their medication adjusted as well as non-pharmacological approaches helped them a lot.

And now his dad has been rushed into hospital. I can predict this month and the next will be full of recrimination, blame and angst. Dad has Parkinson’s & has been hospitalised for a “water infection” translate - urinary tract infection.

Actually dad is worse than just an UTI. He was found on the ground outside in the very inclement weather UK is experiencing. Had he not been found he would have frozen. Thank goodness for caring neighbours. Hypothermia, UTI and further complications. Not been released from hospital yet. At least the family members who haven’t spoken for years have started talking again. I pray this is not the trigger to lead SIL back to drink. It is hard not to care despite all that has happened.

In it all
An the progress you have made
Do not loose sight of your path in this all
You are taking care of you
Were he was unable to do the must important things a partner had committed himself when asking you to be his wife
And none of the credit is his
You found the strength you always had and are moving forward
I believe he may be bipolar myself included
I just haven’t fount the right doctor
Having to take a good look at some patterns I too may be
But that’s not the point as I go through this life I am responsible for the care I give myself nothing but I who wants to be better

You are looking at you for the first time in a while and you have made positive changes in your life mind and spirit it has begun to shine
Only you know what infidelity has done to you
It is not a excuse never forget that
And of course having an empathetic person it is in your makeup to want to help this is time for him to be by himself and figure out what’s going on with him
Just like you did for you
You know how to do things you have become your own
You can take a look at yourself and see what you can do for yourself and be even stronger and that is something you did for you and have come a long way in such a short time
More power to you
Now he must do the same
Time for him to take care of himself better himself so that if you should decide to reconsider and reconcile it be your choice to be honest about what he wants and what he has done
Life is so difficult
It is meant for us to be partnered up
Are we not
In the end happiness and the gift that many do not understand
It’s not the ring that represents commitment
It is the gift of honesty
The most precious gift one can give to another
May he find himself as you have
Love
Me