I’m working 3 days a week atm but go full time from February 1st until July. I feel nervous because there are lots of office politics and the RGM is not happy this was all done without any input from him. Fortunately I get on with him, but it can make for difficulties in the next 6 months...

Miss BO point blank refuses to leave, she has made a bed up in the corner of the spare room, 2 sleeping bags on the floor. He cut the Internet off this Friday and no longer buys food. In less than 30 days she used 356GB of data on the internet, given she is not working I surmise she will find it less than pleasant with the internet disconnected. And I’m confident there will be an alleged slashing attempt. She has already made various threats. I made it clear I’m not interested in hearing any of them. The lease is until the end of May. He can’t leave unless someone takes over the rent and as she is also on the lease, apparently he can’t kick her out. In his words “I made a silly mistake putting her in the lease” it took all my will power not to laugh” silly mistake indeed.

He rings every day & sounds a little healthier, I am sure once she is gone entirely he will turn the corner and I won’t have to worry for his mental health. I saw him yesterday and he looks shocking. Very tired and drawn. I on the other hand look a picture of health.

Pam, it makes me very happy to read that you are a picture of health.

Pam,
I didn't realize you had returned to work. I recall you mentioning the February 6 month
full time position. The "office politics" can be quite uncomfortable. I hope all turns out well.

db must have realized this situation with a 21 year old (not to mention her emotional issues) was not going to last. From the very beginning he was giving you mixed messages about his feelings for you. Can't help but wonder if he wanted to hold on to you with the hope you would be there to pick up the pieces when this was over. He obviously misjudged you.

The positive side of this is you finally taking the time to care for yourself. Feeling good about yourself appears to have had an effect on your health and appearance as well. The best is yet to come dear lady.