She has made no effort to contact me. I was holding onto past threads in the hopes to have some message before my bankruptcy hearing, but nothing. At this point the money she lent me will be deducted from the emergency fare to get me to court. I hate to be this way. She sent a private donation for the care for my cat with no expectation for repayment. But out of the goodness of my heart I offered to pay her back.

Update:

Before I left this morning, I saw my neighbors car in the parking lot, when I got home, it was still there. She never went to work, it was just an excuse and she lied to me. I'm guessing she didn't care if I saw her car out there. I was hoping she would leave me a good luck note, but nope, not that either. So, there is something seriously wrong with her and I have to believe she's drinking again.

I am trying not to let this completely overwhelm me, seeing her car parked there and lying to me. Every day it's something she has done to be hurtful towards me. Now that my bankruptcy is done, there will be no further need to have any further contact with her.

Just wish I could find a way to help her but she has literally slammed the door in my face and is refusing help, so there is nothing more I can do.

Blue

As an alcoholic (8 years sober) the only I advice is I have to help the alcoholic is to not give up. They need help, they just don't know it yet. Don't be "in their face" but let them know that you will be there when they fall. Because, they will.

Dear Icehouse ~ Thank you for your reply *smiles*. I felt I needed to reach out here to this group at Neuro Talk because I needed help from those that have been thru AA and understand what I have been going thru as her caregiver (not official caregiver but self appointed depending upon her needs).

She has a large family, friends and AA supporters, but they don't see her day to day as I do and may not notice the changes that I have been observing. She can be very deceiving and convincing that she is okay to them, but not to me. I wanted to call her closest friend (whom I have the number to), but I am afraid of over-reaching and causing more rage to come down on me. I don't have the close friends to provide safety for me in the event she goes after me. I kinda feel she is very unsafe towards others right now if she can act out against me in the ways she has already done. That is why the only way to help myself is to keep away that I can think of. And yet, I sit in my apartment, like yesterday and looked out at her car that never moved and wonder if she is okay. I'm used to talk to her daily and seeing her several times a week and suddenly... no communication.

I think what I need from this group is to help me sort things out as I have never been faced with this before. Is there a unanimous tip line thru AA I can call to leave a message about her?

Blue

So, today her car is gone. This is her usual day to go to work, hoping she is okay.

Blue

I have no idea if AA has a "hot line", as I have not been to a meeting in over a decade, and odds are that I will never darken that doorway again...YMMV

Thank you Icehouse (( appreciation hugs ))

Blue