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Talking with some friends and a couple on other forums, thought I'd post this here.

I tried to use it with my sister and she heard me a little bit and that was it, she went back to her eating habits and she dealt with MS. She died 5 yrs ago and I believe had she kicked her food "habit, she could be alive. She listened to all her specialists and their drugs and she is gone at 68. She was addicted to sugars and carbs and these foods are a no no in so much health and MS for sure.

Tough love - Wikipedia

Tough love is an expression used when someone treats another person harshly or sternly with the intent to help them in the long run.

I tried to use ToughLove on my father and his lifetime of alcohol and sent him a letter and my mother got it and tore it up, said she "didn't want to hurt his feelings"...she was not into ToughLove. She really had no clue. A tough marriage, thou.

Addiction comes in many ways.

Just feel like bringing this topic up here.
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I received the tough love lecture from my father a month ago. He was criticizing my weight gain and the alcohol that I drink. I finally just got up and said I needed to go to bed.
I told my sister about it and she said she had that lecture before. I relayed that to my older sister whom she said that she would wait until her lecture next.
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I know that I am over weight and I don't need to be lectured about it.
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Oh I've got some other stories but won't bring them up. I tell my daughter and good friends, Please tell me and talk to me if they see me going down a bad path. I've questioned myself on genes about addiction as it's in my family, dad's side, but I don't see it. As I said addiction has so many faces, and even my shopping habits are very practical and wise. My dear sister also was a shopaholic and tried to get me down that road, I resisted.
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